"Why Successful Black Women Can't Find A Man"

Recently, Nightline aired a debate on why successful black women can't find a man. Some people find this topic overlooked and some find it offensive. This topic has been a "hot topic" for years and each time it comes up, I stop and think to myself...why is it that a successful black female has a hard time finding a equal partner?

According to  the Journal of Blacks in Higher Education, at least 60 percent of black students who get awarded college degrees are women. Black women make up 71 percent of black graduate students. 


But the statistics point to another issue: Many of the women are single.

According to a recent Yale study, 42 percent of African-American women have yet to be married, compared to only 23 percent of white women. There's also a gap in numbers. The 2000 U.S. Census counted 1.8 million more African-American women than black men.

So, statiscally this explains why a black female has a hard time finding a partner of her EQUAL. It's not hard for a woman to find a man, per say. It's hard for a woman to find a man on the same level as her. Why work so hard to obtain success only to find yourself with a man who doesn't want anything out of life? It's common sense that the numbers don't allow for every successful black female to find a successful black man and variables such as interracial dating, prison, homosexuality, lack of education, and institutional racism in corporate america skew the numbers more against a woman trying to find her black man.

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I ride the fence on this issue though. Although I feel a successful black woman shouldn't HAVE to search another race to find a man or lower her standards, I do believe that if we as black women were a little more open minded then it would be to our benefit. 

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I mean, I don't know. I don't have an answer to this question. I believe there are many, many issues that cause successful black women to not be able to find a successful black man. After watching the entire debate, I really can relate to both what the women and the men on the panel were saying. I think this is just an issue black women have to face and learn how to deal with by looking to alternatives. 

I think women are always looking for the right man to: make us happy, complete us, be a perfect partner/friend/lover, etc. No one can be all those things. YOU can make yourself happy-Take a walk, an aerobics class, volunteer, frequent spas, trips, hang out with your girls, meet new people of the same interests. There's so much pressure put on men to make us happy and pressure put on ourselves to find the right man. Let's try being the Right Woman first.


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